It is common practice for people to monitor all sorts of things.
They may not understand what they are monitoring. But they cannot resist doing this and then they like to “make plans for Nigel”
“We’re only making plans for Nigel
We only want what’s best for him
We’re only making plans for Nigel
Nigel just needs that helping hand”
It never occurs to them that their plans are not welcome. That is because their self-perception differs from how others see them…
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results…there is no rhyme or reason to it.